Have a read here, especially the first few.

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&q=malware+with+instant+messagingA friend informed me that my ex-husband is spying remotely on my computer usage via an "undetectable" spyware program. He seems to think it was something called SniperSpy? I use SpywareDoctor to scan my computer daily and also CCleaner to keep my computer cleared of old junk. I have not found anything called SniperSpy or any other spyware thus far... but could it be there lurking and "undetectable" After much research on spyware programs like this, I am confused about a related issue: keylogging, IM malware, etc... raised a question in my not-so-computer-savvy brain...

I use a laptop for home and work usage and gain wireless INTERNET access via wireless network both at home and at work. My home network, I am not so worried about, but can  someone at my work place view what I am doing on my computer via spy-programs on the network, or does this stuff have to obe downloaded directly onto my computer? Recently, a colleague had personal information about me that they WOULD have no way of knowing other than bugging my home phone or accessing my computer!!! Made me wonder about this stuff and how to protect myself. Price not being an option, I would like to know how to make sure my computer is secure wherever I may be.

Thanx in advance for any possible help  First off Welcome Aboard MAIA,

It's best to start a new thread with your problem so things don't get too confused.
DLoad and run Spyware Doctor which is a free program designed to sniff out keyloggers especially.
After that update all your other protection programs and run the scans one at a time.
If you feel you don't have enough protection post back for suggestions.
Most are free and well WORTH having, but you have to remember to use them on a regular basis for them to be effective...

patio.  8-)