I have a compaq computer with windows xp home edition.
I have had problems with my ex in that he originally set up my computer and managed to set up wireless devices on my network. I have deleted all wireless devices and any other devices I don't recognise, and changed the admin access area password so that seems to have solved that problem-however, I am still concerned about what he could have done-I am suspicious of everything now.

When I shut down, my computer makes the 'shutting down' noise twice-could it be that he has access still, though hidden? (He knows everything about my computer, as he set everything up and is an I.T technician)

How can I tell if he used a 'key-logging' programme?

Could you be just a little more specific as to what the problem is? Thanks.Personally, gonzalez, I think you are being more than a little paranoid, but then I don't know your ex. If you are so concerned, why don't you back up all your important data and completely reinstall Windows? If he really is such a scarily controlling person, and you feel that he might spy on you after he has gone, that is the first thing that you should do. Think of it as part of "moving on". Think of it as taking control of your own stuff. I mean, I am sure you got rid of lots of little things to do with him from around the house, think of it like that.

I would certainly do this.

The excuse "But I don't know anything about computers" won't do. The price of peace of mind and freedom is to learn some of that geek stuff. It isn't hard, and you will be one step further along the road towards being free, one step further away from letting people like him run your life. Anyway that's just my 2 cents worth.


Only found out about his very serious, very scary and EXTREMELY violent criminal background when we split up, and I really do know that he is capable of tracking my every move if he can. Trust me when I saw I am trying to move on!

Ok, so tell me how to back up/reinstall windows as I really don't know how to do these things-that's how we learn isn't it? As he was an IT technician and a control freak, I never found out how to do these things as he would always do them.

ThanksWe also learn by doing things and by finding out for ourselves. Google is a really brilliant search engine.
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Basically, I just need to know if there is anyway he can still be 'spying' on me, EVEN though I have disconnected all wireless devices-whether he may have put programmes in my computer before we split that would ALLOW him to do this, and also whether he has already 'spied' on me with a key-logging programme.

If there is a simple explanation as to why, when I log off, the 'logging off' noise sounds once then again a few seconds later, please GIVE me the explanation and I will be happy.

I know he has already 'spied' on me in a way as had set up my next door neighbours (worryingly still friendly with them) with a wireless connection to my internet, along with several other wireless devices that were nothing to do with me, and when I tried to delete them, a little later they would re-appear. I only got this changed when I changed the password to the admin access area (which bt don't like doing apparently?!!).

Any ways of me checking my comp is safe and sound from him would be great.Contrex-

Agreed, we do learn by doing (as a teacher I know this is obviously the best way to learn)-I have done nothing but scour all the help pages and websites since changing the wireless settings-I have learnt a LOT, but some questions remain unanswered (and, after all, I am uneducated in computers, not stupid in general)-I don't know how to ask a search engine about the 'logging off' noise-I have looked at 'shutting down' etc. but no answers-if you know a simple explanation for it, please tell me and I will be more than happy.

I get the feeling you feel that I am wasting your time-I thought this forum was to ask questions that others might know the answers to? I don't feel that you were wasting my time, I feel that this forum is to point people in the right direction, not to give long, tedious to type step-by-step instructions how to do something which has been covered many times before on websites and in books. We are not paid to do this. Pro computer help is there for people who need it.

Sounds like you're hearing a sound when you log off, and another sound when the PC shuts down. (Logging off and shutting down are not the same thing) That's what I hear on mine.